I’m obviously not a dating expert, but I have been married for several years now. Over this time I’ve learned that having a great relationship with your spouse doesn’t just happen. It takes work and time and communication. So here’s a little game I’ve done to make the time you have with each other a little more special.
The last time my wife and I went out on a date we played this game. Here’s a list of questions to ask your spouse. You each take turn picking questions. The catch is that anything you ask, your spouse gets to ask you back. It’s a great way to make sure your conversations don’t stay on the surface level. A great tip is to ask a follow-up question. If there’s more there that you haven’t heard before, ask it. It’s a fun and interesting way to learn more about the person you love.
1. What are some books you’ve really enjoyed?
2. What books would you like to read sometime?
3. What are your favourite foods?
4. What did you want to be when you grew up?
5. What is some of your favorite memories from your childhood?
6. What are some of the more difficult memories from your childhood?
7. What are you favorite hobbies?
8. What did your parents teach you that you appreciate now?
9. What did your parents say or do that you found difficult?
10. Who is someone that inspires you?
11. What do you like us doing together?
12. What would you like to do together in future, just the two of us?
13. What would you like to do together in future, all of us with the kids too?
14. What is your favorite passage of Scripture?
15. What is your favorite memory verse?
16. What are your greatest strengths?
17. What are your greatest weaknesses?
18. What overwhelms you?
19. What is concerning you?
20. What are you fearful of?
21. Are you content at present?
22. What makes you happy?1
23. How can I add to your happiness?
24. What do you find attractive about me?
25. When did you know you wanted to marry me?
26. What are some of your favorite memories of us?
27. How do you like me saying ‘I love you’ the most—words, gifts, or touch?
28. How can I demonstrate my love for you in different ways?
29. What do I do that irritates or frustrates you?
30. How can I help you be a better husband/wife?
31. How can I help you be a better father/mother?
32. How can I better meet your physical needs and desires?2
33. How can I better meet your emotional needs and desires?
34. What can I do to encourage and support you better?
35. Where do you see us in 5 years time? In 10 years time?
36. Is there anything in your heart that you need to forgive me for?
37. In what ways do you think we love differently?
38. In what ways do you think we parent differently?
39. Describe to me your relationship with God at present.
40. Tell me about a memorable time you connected with God.
41. What do you love about each of our children?
42. What hopes and dreams do you have for each of our children?
43. What are you most thankful for?
44. How have you changed since we married?
45. What do you like about our marriage?
46. What would you like to change about our marriage?
47. What spiritual gifts to you see in me?
48. Is there anything you regret?
49. Tell me something about yourself that I may not know.
50. What are some of your greatest hopes?